I belong to a wine club. Well it started out as a wine club now it is an opportunity to get together, drink and have a good time. We decided to hold our May wine club at the beach. One of the members has a home and so we convened at her house lovingly known as “My Happy Place”.
Since the weekend consisted of walking the boardwalk, attending Springfest and of course eating and DRINKING, I didn’t bring my usual reading material. Instead I picked a romance novel. I love romance novels just like I love watching Hallmark movies at Christmas.
Even if the characters face adversity and what would a good romance novel be without adversity, they all end happily ever after. So for this weekend when I needed a break from the drinking and craziness I read Silver Pine Trail by RaeAnne Thayne. It is about a librarian who finds love at Christmas. There is no twisted plot. It doesn’t require a lot of brain power. It is just a relaxing, nice story. Click on the book or link to get more info.
Do you ever see a person or persons and in your head make up a story about them. I remember when my husband and I were first married we were walking hand in hand in New York City. We found ourselves walking behind this beautiful older couple. They must have been in there late 70’s.
They too were holding hands and I turned to my husband and said, “Do you think we will be like them when we are their age?” We hoped we would be. I then started thinking, how did they meet, did they have children, were they even married or had they just found each other and all these stories about them started forming in my head. We are not their age yet so who knows whether that will be us but I hope so.
This book reminded me of that moment . One of the characters in the book was given a piece of jewelry by his Fiancée, something that meant a lot to her. Ironically she died the day she gave it to him and he lost it.
From that day forward he picked up and cataloged items he found and became The Keeper of Lost Things He was an author and so he wrote short stories about the lost items many of which were published.
He always meant to try and return the items but died leaving the job to be done by his assistant. As it turns out she was one of his “lost things”. She makes it her mission to find the owners of the lost things and finds herself along the way. It is a very nice story.
I work in IT. One of the most common calls that I get when I am on help desk duty is for a password issue. No shock here since they require many passwords to gain access to their tablet or laptop and apps.
So for those of you who are working at 2:00 am in the morning and forget your password and call your help desk check this article out after you are given a password reset. Good luck and I hope it helps!
Is it possible to remember your password?
Deborah Tannen is a Professor of Linguistics, more specifically Socio-linguistics. She is one of my favorite non fiction authors. I was fortunate enough to attend a seminar she presented and actually got to speak with her.
She writes about how people talk with each other. It is all about the message. I was talking to a friend whose daughter just graduated college and got her first job. She came in and said to her daughter who was sitting on the couch watching something and said “Isn’t it great that you can sit on the couch and relax?” Her daughter got angry and thought she was being criticized. All she meant was isn’t it great that you have finished school, don’t have to study and have a new job that you are getting ready to start. The pressure is off you can enjoy your downtime.
I have had several conversations like this with my own daughter and I couldn’t understand why she was mad at what I said. Tannen takes about Meta message which as an IT person I get. The prefix meta originates from the Greek language meaning underlying definition or description. Meta data summarizes basic information about data which can make finding and working with particular instances easier.
If you make the analogy between the brain and the computer the meta message is like meta data. The brain goes back to a memory where the daughter was actually sitting on the couch and the same question or type of question was asked and the meaning of the question was completely different in context and tone.
Once I read this book I had what Oprah calls an AH Ha moment and things got so much better because I got it. I try to clarify and phrase things differently and it seems to work maybe just a little bit better.
This book deals with communication between a Mother and a Daughter. My relationship with my daughter is one of the most important things in the world to me. That is why I felt so compelled to read it. The book is filled with great examples and does a great job explaining why you are getting the unexpected response back from your daughter. My Mom use to tell me it is not what you say it is how you say it. So true.
It is hard to believe that my Mom passed away almost a year ago. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t reach for my phone and start dialing her number just to yak.
I remember when I was growing up, my Mom had shelves of books and one of my greatest pleasures was to take a book off the shelf and start reading. My Mom and I had our own book club and sometimes we would talk on the phone for an hour discussing a book we read. I would bring her a stack of books. She would read them and then we would talk.
So I should not have found it surprising when I recently went to visit my Dad and we agreed to pack up my Mom’s books that I found all the books I had given her and that we had discussed. Tucked in with all the rest was this book, Brave Companions by David McCullough.
If you are like me, you may know the author from other things he has written, most notably, at least to me was John Adams. This book was the basis for the HBO series John Adams. Both are great.
So of course, I read through the night. McCullough is such a good historical writer. As I read the book the characters came alive. This book is about people in history that I knew about like Harriet Beecher Stowe and some that I did not like Alexander Von Humboldt.
Sometimes when you are reading a history book or just a narrative on historical facts it can be dull and boring. Not this book, at least not for me.
Thank you Mom for leaving this book for me to read. I only wish you were here to discus it with me.
It was a gloomy, wet weekend. Perfect for a good read and it just so happens that David Baldacci has a new book out. It just so happens that I had the book on my kindle. No coincidence, this was a well thought out plan on my part.
I was hanging out with my Dad. He was sitting in his favorite chair reading and I was sitting on the couch reading. There is nothing better than curling up with a good book on a crappy day.
So Amos Decker is back! Who is Amos Decker? Well he just happens to be The Memory Man. Amos, while playing his first game in the NFL, was hit hard in the head. Even though he was wearing a helmet he suffered a significant head injury. This head injury permanently sidelined him from playing football. He also found he could remember EVERYTHING. Professionally having an amazing memory is a gift but personally not so much.
In this book he witnesses a murder and a suicide that get him involved in a case that involves spying and a terrorist plot. Baldacci is a great storyteller. Read this book.
I loved my dog. Josh was my baby. He was the smartest, cutest dog on earth. Well at least in my opinion. And the most important thing was he loved me and I loved him. There was nothing that could put a smile on my face after a rough day at work like being greeted by Josh when I came through the door.
Unlike many dogs, Josh was not very destructive. He didn’t eat the dry wall or chomp on my brand new high heels. (That was my dog Sammy) While he would steal stuffed animals off of my daughters bed, he would only sleep on them, he didn’t rip them apart. Well maybe there would be a little hole from his teeth but I am sure he didn’t mean it.
He was such good company. He and I would never argue, we only had discussions. He would discuss with me about having dinner again and I would say only one dinner per night. But he slept next to me and he sat on the couch with me while I read or watched TV. He watched football all day on Sunday with my husband often getting a piece of the game day sub.
Sadly Josh died and while my husband and I have talked about getting another dog, we just can’t seem to replace him. We had other dogs but he was our favorite.
Dancing Dogs is a book of short stories about you guessed it, Dogs. The first story had me in tears. But they all have a feel good theme. So if you are a dog lover, read this book. I think you will be able to relate.